Have you ever been asked how do you do it all? And your answers sound like; ‘I’m not sure, I just do what needs to be done,’ ‘One thing at a time, but my head is spinning out of control, when can I go home?’ Or, sometimes jokingly say, ‘I seem to be an expert on what work life balance isn't!’
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Do you find yourself caring for aging parents and children while working a full-time job? Do you feel like your plate is always overflowing with too many responsibilities? Do you often feel overwhelmed? 

Well, then, if you didn’t already know, you are now a part of the SANDWICH GENERATION. Generations are intriguing, and learning about what makes each one tick, priorities toward work, how to work with each, and ultimately what they find most important is fascinating. Nothing prepares you for the sandwich generation and how crazy it can be when you find you are now also a card-carrying member of this generation. I hope this article will leave you with 3 things:

1) Knowing that you are not alone.
2) Provides you with some things to think about and tools to put in your backpack.
3) How to navigate what can sometimes be uncomfortable conversations and situations.

The Sandwich Generation is defined simply as you find yourself taking care of aging parents and children with increased responsibilities. Americans, most commonly in their 40s, are most likely to be sandwiched between their children and an aging parent. More than half of this age group have a living parent age 65 or older and are either raising a child younger than 18 or have an adult child they helped financially in the past year.

This generation faces unique challenges: Time Constraints, Financial Pressures, and Emotional Stress.

It can be difficult to juggle your parent’s affairs, appointments and errands, a child’s school and extra-curricular schedules, along with your significant other’s needs, too. More often than not, the one sandwiched also has a job of their own, which of course comes with another set of responsibilities. This is where the lines blur between work and life. We will get into that later.

If the one in the sandwich has children at home or in college that they are financially supporting and are responsible for helping their parents, the financial stress can be heavy.

Many members of this generation find that they feel more obligated to help an aging parent than an adult child but wouldn’t turn away a child in need.

A sandwich generation member also faces emotional challenges. This can be a lonely path, and at times feel as if no one gets it. Every situation is not the same, however there are many similarities, and it is important to find your support system to help you get through the day. It is also important to watch for the following signs of caregiver burnout: emotional and physical exhaustion, social withdrawal from friends and family, losing interest in favorite activities, changes in sleep, appetite, and weight, feeling hopeless, helpless, irritable or blue, and getting sick more often.

Selfcare cannot be stressed enough for this generation! And that looks different for each of us, so find out what is best for you. Remember, this is a season, seasons change, and that change is constant.

Each of us has a Lifebook, so to speak, with many stories, and that story needs to be owned. This is part of your story, but you may not be in the middle of the sandwich just yet. Perhaps, you are preparing for it, have finished it, or are adjacent to it as there is another member in your circle in the middle of it. Wherever you find yourself, owning it can help bring you to a place where it's easier to make a plan and set goals for your own situation.

We defined the generation, talked about owning your story and identified the challenges, so what about on the job? It is important to acknowledge and recognize where you find yourself, so you can make the best of the situation.

Be 100% honest, with yourself, your family and your employer. People only know what YOU tell them verbally, or in writing. DO NOT let someone assume your situation. If you aren't completely honest, expecting them to understand will be difficult. Accept your situation for what it is. This is probably the most difficult, because more times than not it happens when you aren’t necessarily prepared.

In an ideal world, this generation could manage everything on their plate, but sometimes that plate overflows. So how can we create a supportive working environment? If you are the one in the sandwich, working with one, or supervising someone, it is important to be understanding and supportive.

Encourage open communication to foster a culture where ALL employees feel comfortable discussing their caregiving needs. As a manager, be empathetic to the situation. A flexible schedule may be all the employee needs and understanding the dual pressures the employee is facing.

If YOU are the one, be sure those that need to know about your situation do, especially your direct supervisor and your human resources office.

Perhaps you are WORKING WITH someone. Be supportive and empathetic to their situation. It is temporary but unfortunately does not have an end date. Offering to take a work task off their plate or being an ear to listen may be all they need.

SUPERVISING someone may be the most difficult, because there are workplace needs that must happen. However, this employee is most likely not 100% present if there are things in their personal life that need attention. Do not be afraid to have a conversation.

These responsibilities may have potential impacts on your career progression that may include: less time for professional development or career-advancing opportunities, time and scheduling conflicts and missed workdays due to caregiving emergencies or appointments. The constant balancing or caregiving duties and work responsibilities can increase stress and the likelihood of burnout.

​Support needed now will feel different, because most likely your biggest supporters are now the ones you are caring for. When seeking support, always look for those people or places that are stress-free and help calm the chaos. This can take time, but trust that the Universe will provide, and that sometimes support finds you.

NETWORK: Ask for HELP both at work and at home. Your responsibilities may require you to be away from work or home more than usual and there will not be enough time to do all the things. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but more of an acknowledgment of your situation.

FRIENDS and FAMILY: Plan outings and keep them. It is important to stay connected to those you love.

PROFESSIONALS: There is always someone to talk to if it gets too overwhelming. Do not be afraid to seek professional help.

TECHNOLOGY: Is your friend. Use calendars, apps, and to-do lists to help you stay organized to track appointments, responsibilities, and personal time.

RESOURCES: There are many. Examples include your campus EAP, local office for the aging. Online, there are a variety of helpful sites that include webinars, and articles: Mental Health America, Care.com and the National Alliance on Mental Illness to name a few.

Once you find yourself in the sandwich, personal responsibilities increase dramatically, but time does not. It is important to remember that it will not be this way forever!

Resources:
Ochman, P. (2022). Sandwich Generation Explained: Caught in the Middle. https://www.chaptershealth.org/chapters-of-life-blog/families-caregivers/sandwich-generation-explained-caught-in-the-middle/

Grey, H. Sandwich Generation 101: Who They Are & How To Be The Last. https://www.homage.sg/resources/sandwich-generation

​Curtain, M. (2017). WHAT IS THE SANDWICH AND IS IT GOOD WITH MAYO? https://mistycurtain.wordpress.com/2017/08/04/what-is-the-sandwich-generation-and-is-it-good-with-mayo/

​Recently, I held our signature admitted student event at the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign.  This all-day Saturday program brought over 1,800 admitted students, along with their families, to campus to meet and engage with the university through sessions with their admitted college (of which there are 11), a resource fair with 30+ campus units, and numerous open houses, housing tours, dining opportunities, and campus tours.  To say the least, this event requires collaboration and coordination across campus for several months - hundreds of students, dozens of faculty members, and countless staff contribute to the planning and execution of the day’s events.
 
As a former competitive ballroom dancer, I think of the campus partnerships event planners cultivate as similar to those I formed on the dance floor.  In order to compete successfully, you must understand, communicate with, and trust your dance partner.  This applies to the conference world - there are numerous campus partners with whom you must develop strong relationships for smooth events and happy clients.

​I find dance concepts connect well with the strategies that build these critical relationships, and there are four I highlight for event planners.

Four steps for a successful partnership, on or off the dance floor

1. Initiate - Build Your Dance Card
If you’re a fan of the Regency era, you might be familiar with filling your dance card - the way gentlemen would “sign up” for a dance with a lady.  Dance is about being unafraid to invite new partners to the floor - taking the bold step to introduce yourself and acknowledging rejection is possible.  Think broadly of all the departments impacting your events, from schedulers to parking to security.  Reach out to individuals across campus and extend an invite to talk; sometimes it takes just an invitation to realize you have a great new partner ready to join you!

2. Communication - Learning the Steps
Dance is all about knowing your partner and moving in synchrony.  Yes, you may have a routine memorized, but much of it is knowing the possible steps and anticipating the next move based on subtle, often silent, signals.  Be it you’re leading or following, you understand each other - the leader does not drag the person around the floor, but rather creates space for their partner to move into and uses quiet movement to invite them to it.  When working with campus partners, consider their frame of reference - what is their dance profile?  How much do they know about your work and how do your goals support and match theirs?  You do not want to “drag” them through a collaborative project; you want their investment, which requires you to know as much about them as they do you.

Also be open to how your partners best learn; the way you structure your dance may not work as well for them.  Instead, look for commonalities; I love ballroom because we each know enough similar steps that we can jump on the dance floor and adjust as we learn each other’s style.  Sometimes, we even discuss our dance knowledge level while warming up with basic steps – be willing to ask your campus partners the most effective style of collaboration. 

​The best dancers develop this innate connection and improvise faster when faced with the unexpected - like when another couple cuts in front of you in a competition heat!

3. Strengthen - Find Your Rhythm
The beauty of partner dance is you have two (or more) dancers creating one visual.  In this same way, the work we do in events and conferences contributes to the same mission as our partners.  In reality, you are working toward one goal and present a united front.  To an outsider, we are simply the university - not separate units.  It is one dance they see (and they’ll never know if that was the dance move you truly intended to make…).  View any missteps as an opportunity to strengthen your collaboration through lessons learned and an openness to incorporate feedback in your future partnerships.

4. Solidify - Establish a True Partner
​Let’s say you develop a strong partnership for a conference one year - now you must build on it!  Maintain those relationships - send them a note occasionally, support them by showing up to one of their programs, or invite them to a debrief over coffee.  It takes hours of dancing together to become true partners; trust is solidified through continual practice and as we improve, we begin to move together intuitively.  There is no way I would allow a partner to lift me the first time we dance - but once we develop a consistent partnership, I am willing to be flipped upside down!
 
It can be difficult to build campus partnerships, but if you’re ready, you can truly elevate those relationships and take dancing with your campus stars to the next level. With whomever or however - I hope you’ll join us on the dance floor of event planning!


​#campuspartnerships #shareyourstory

At its core, imposter syndrome allows a disconnect between a person’s success or competence and their perceived lack of abilities. This disconnect can lead to chronic self-doubt, fear of being exposed as a fraud, difficulty recognizing success, and a constant pursuit of perfectionism. Those experiencing imposter syndrome may also overwork themselves or they minimize their accomplishments. Although people with imposter syndrome are most likely competent, successful, and respected by others, their self-image can be debilitating and detrimental to their mental health.

Five Types of Imposter Syndrome:

1. The Perfectionist - Sets unrealistic or extremely high goals and then labels themselves as failures when they are unable to meet these goals. They use mistakes as proof of their inadequacy.
2. The Superwoman/Superman - The need to work harder than others to prove that they are not a fraud. This desire to work harder often leads to burnout.
3. Natural Genius - Connects working hard with the lack of natural ability. They judge their success by the ability to achieve goals with very little effort.
4. The Soloist - The desire to accomplish goals on their own. They associate the need to ask for help as a sign of incompetence or failure.
5. The Expert - They acquire credentials or knowledge in attempt to know everything about their field. They feel like fraud if they are unable to answer a question related to their field.

Common Signs of Imposter Syndrome:
Although imposter syndrome can vary from person to person there are several common patterns that overlap and can create cycles of self-doubt.

1. Attributing success to external factors - Frequently crediting achievements to luck, timing, or other external sources. Common phrases include “I was just in the right place at the right time” or “I just got lucky.”
2. Over-preparation or overworking - The struggle to keep up with appearances by working late, triple checking assignments, or overstudying. This pattern is especially common in academia, event planning, or other leadership roles.
3. Difficulty in accepting praise or recognition - Individuals will deflect or be embarrassed by praise. They often respond with dismissive language.
4. Fear of making mistakes - Individuals who experience imposter syndrome may often avoid scenarios or opportunities due to the fear of making mistakes. They feel that anything short of perfection is considered a failure. This fear can lead to procrastination, the inability to delegate, or avoiding new tasks.

Contributors of Imposter Syndrome:
There can be many causes and sources of imposter syndrome. In many cases it is a combination of social, cultural, and environmental factors. These can shape a person’s beliefs and self-worth. Some of the most common contributions include:

1. Family/Childhood Experiences - Children who are raised in environments that emphasize success may grow into adults who place high value on perfectionism. Labeling children as “gifted” or “creative” can also create high expectations to live up to those labels.
2. Social and Cultural Expectations - Cultural backgrounds and societal norms can influence a person’s experience. Those who are underrepresented can feel added pressure to prove themselves. This can be commonly seen with First-generation college students, young professionals in work environments with older colleagues, women in male dominated fields, and people of color in predominantly white workplaces.
3. Personality Traits - Those who tend to be perfectionists or high achievers are more likely to experience imposter syndrome along with those who may already have doubts about their capabilities.
4. Social Media/Digital Influences - Those who spend an excessive amount of time on social media platforms also have an increased chance of experiencing imposter syndrome. They tend to compare what they see on social media to their own reality. There can also be an overexposure of achievement culture which can create unrealistic expectations.

How to overcome Imposter Syndrome:
Overcoming imposter syndrome can be a challenge but it is important to know that it is not about eliminating uncertainty or self-doubt. Learning to recognize the feelings when they arise and how to challenge the narratives behind those feelings can be the first step in improving your mental health and well-being. Other steps include:

1. Acknowledge the feelings - recognizing the little voice in your head is the first step in reducing its power. Remind yourself that those thoughts are common and that everyone experiences them.
2. Separate fact from feelings - realize that just because you are experiencing a negative feeling (such as being unqualified) does not mean that you ARE unqualified.
3. Challenge the negative patterns - Instead of agreeing with the negative thoughts create lists of specific accomplishments that contradict those thoughts.
4. Practice self-compassion - Use kind words when referring to yourself, acknowledge the effort not just the outcome and embrace imperfection.
5. Set obtainable and realistic goals - Avoid unrealistic goals which can add to feeling like an imposter. Set smaller goals that are easier to obtain and build up to bigger goals.
6. Do not compare your “behind-the-scenes” to someone else’s “highlight reel.” Just because someone makes it look easy or natural does not mean it is.

Imposter syndrome can be a persistent internal conflict that can give false narrations about your talent, capability, or worth. These narrations can often be rooted in a variety of causes including upbringing, work environment, or personality traits. Because of these root causes we often set ourselves up for unrealistic standards or comparisons. Recognizing the early signs and paying attention to the symptoms can be the first step in overcoming imposter syndrome.

​By acknowledging intrusive thoughts, reframing negative thoughts, and setting realistic goals you can create an environment that can change that “little voice” from negative thoughts to thoughts of positivity and self-care.

References
Hibberd, J. (2019). The imposter cure: Escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome. London: HarperCollins.
Hutchins, H. M. (2015). Outing the imposter: Overcoming self-doubt in professional life. New York: Routledge.
Kelso, K. (2021). Overcoming the imposter: Strategies to reclaim your confidence. New York: TarcherPerigee.
Sakulku, J., & Alexander, J. (2011). The imposter phenomenon. International Journal of Behavioral Science, 6(1), 73–92.

​Quasquicentennial – try saying that five times fast! During the 2024-2025 academic year, Elizabethtown College celebrated their 125th anniversary since its founding in 1899. We set out to create something truly special for our community: a celebration that honors our rich history while also embracing the many ways we will shape the future for generations to come.

Planning for the quasquicentennial began in 2022, when a committee was formed that brought together partners from across campus—student life, marketing, academic affairs, events, and even members of the graduating class of 2025. To address key areas in greater detail, subcommittees were created to provide targeted guidance. From the beginning, we knew we didn’t want to create entirely new events. Instead, our goal was to elevate existing traditions by using the resources we already had. With support from the scheduling office, the committee reviewed annual events and identified opportunities to enhance them in celebration of the 125th milestone. This became a yearlong series of celebrations, beginning with Convocation.

Convocation is the official ceremony that marks the start of the academic year. The event includes an academic procession of faculty and administrators, an induction of the incoming class, and an address by the president. For our 125th year, the College launched a new tradition by hosting Convocation in conjunction with the First-Year Student Induction Ceremony. Families were invited to attend and witness their students beginning the next chapter of their lives on campus. Transforming our vast fieldhouse into a welcoming space was a major lift for the events team, but the effort paid off. New students heard words of encouragement from the Provost and Dean of Students, met distinguished faculty, and connected with current Blue Jays. After the president’s remarks, students participated in a candle-lighting ceremony symbolizing the light each one brings to campus. To make the event even more memorable, our technical teams set up a video wall and 360-degree cameras, while the Office of Marketing & Communications produced a heartfelt video featuring parents’ messages to their students (cue the tears!).

One new addition to the calendar was our Charter Day Celebration. As co-chair of the Charter Week subcommittee, I worked with local vendors to create a break from classes on the academic quad. The celebration included food trucks, live music, giveaways, yard games, and even an inflatable obstacle course, along with the opportunity to view the College’s original charter document. The first 100 attendees received a commemorative canvas tote bag, which proved to be very popular. Throughout the afternoon, prize drawings were held every 15 minutes, with giveaways such as Stanley tumblers, College Store gift cards, stuffed Blue Jays, and more. Despite less-than-ideal weather, more than half of the campus community came out to join the festivities.

Community partnership has always been important at Etown, and we made sure to highlight those connections during the anniversary year. In fact, the College’s first day of classes in 1899 was held in Heisey Hall, now home to a local favorite—Brothers Pizza. To celebrate that history, Brothers offered $1.25 pizza slices and fountain drinks to anyone who presented a valid Etown ID on the anniversary of the first day of classes.

Our annual Holiday Dinner & Tree Lighting Ceremony was bigger and brighter than ever. The fieldhouse was transformed into a winter wonderland complete with uplighting, a photo booth, specialty linens, a
carving station, sushi towers, and even a sparkling champagne wall, with drinks served by senior leaders of the College. After dinner, the campus community gathered outdoors for the president’s reading of Everybody’s Tree before lighting the tree and menorah, enjoying performances by our a cappella groups, and spending time together around fire pits.

The celebrations continued into the spring semester. One highlight was Power of One Day, our annual 24-hour giving challenge. In honor of the 125th anniversary, one “Power Hour” challenge pledged $20,000 from a loyal donor couple if 125 donors made a gift between 3 p.m. and 4 p.m. The community rallied together, surpassing the goal and achieving the highest totals in Power of One Day history.

We also reimagined our annual scholarship dinner, rebranded as the 125th Anniversary Dinner. The event celebrated milestone accomplishments, honored donors and student scholars, and looked ahead to the next 125 years at Etown. Students who participated in Scholarship and Creative Arts Day showcased their research and creative work to board members, donors, and guests. Attendance doubled from prior years, with more than 400 attendees. A lively reception allowed students to network with alumni and supporters, followed by a formal dinner where donors and scholarship recipients connected directly and shared how scholarships have impacted lives.

A big anniversary calls for an even bigger brand story. Our Office of Marketing & Communications (OMC) rose to the occasion, earning silver-level recognition in the 2025 CUPPIE Awards from the College and University Public Relations Association of Pennsylvania (CUPRAP). The award honored their innovative branding campaign, which featured anniversary logos, outdoor graphics, apparel, a 125th anniversary webpage, social media campaigns, and a suite of digital and print materials. The branding was integrated across signature events—appearing everywhere from lectures and scholarship dinners to the beloved Charter Day tote bag giveaway.
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Our 125th anniversary reminded us that milestone years don’t always require brand-new programming—sometimes the most meaningful impact comes from reimagining what already exists. By elevating signature events, aligning them under a unifying brand, and engaging both campus and community partners, we turned ordinary traditions into extraordinary celebrations. For event professionals, it’s a powerful reminder that with creativity, collaboration, and intention, every gathering has the potential to tell a bigger story.

When you were younger, did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? I’m talking - really know. I mean, have a plan, kind of know. If you did, and you’re living the dream - congratulations! Or, maybe you thought you knew what you wanted to be and followed a path in that direction, but life took you on the scenic route. Maybe you didn’t have a clue and set out on life’s way until you’re up to your neck adulting. All are okay and since we all work for institutions of higher education - well, all routes were a learning experience. 

Me, I would classify myself as somewhere in the middle. I thought I knew what I wanted to do, but life took me down a side road. It later connected backup, but the lessons in between were enough to get me here. ​

You see, when I graduated high school, SATs determined everything. Your SAT score was the determining factor if you were admitted into college and likely if you got the program you wanted. Let’s just say testing and SATs were not my friends. Oh, I was admitted to college, but not the program I was hoping to study. With a chip on my shoulder, I decided to finish a two-year program. A month after graduation, I got married and a month after that - well, adulting. I took a temporary job at the University of Maine. Between July and November, I worked two or three jobs around campus. This was a time of discovery - academia - who knew. I had never thought of higher ed as a place I wanted to work, let alone a place that would offer me all that I have come to appreciate. In November of that year, I took a permanent part-time position. For another six months I would catalog books at the library. Then, there was a full-time opening in the library office. Full-time pay, benefits - Adulting 101. 

This was the starting line for me. This job taught me applied word-processing skills, how to use spreadsheets for real data collection and reporting purposes; charts, graphs, and paying attention to the details. This was also a time when card catalogs were becoming digitized. Part of my job was to deliver the rolls of magnetic tapes to the building where our computerized mainframe lived, drop them off, record dates, times, tape numbers, record numbers and later to place the orders to load the tapes and run programs to move the information from the tapes to the library information system for our entire seven campus system. A screw up here would mess up the cataloging system all over the state - no pressure. It was also the same time many journal databases and other research resources were moving to online subscriptions for libraries everywhere. I was on the phone with vendors learning to code web links on webpages to connect our school to vendor databases by way of using their school ID cards. It was here I started learning HTML code. 

Two years later, the chance to move up the ranks took me to a new department and new work. Here I would be on the front line with students and faculty. It was meaningful work. Using my word-processing skills to help edit research papers for faculty, downloading spreadsheets and uploading them into stand alone database programs. Creating flyers to promote professional development events, conferences and programs. This is where my appreciation for event planning really got off the ground. I was running logistics for the largest conference held on-campus at the time. Organizing speaker travel and pay, being on the planning committee, finding resources to get what we needed when we needed it. We had over 400 attendees with 8-10 concurrent sessions. Catering and dining, parking, classroom reservations, AV services, oh my, but I enjoyed every minute of it. Was this pressure? You bet, of a certain kind, but something inside me thrived on it. Producing the materials that went in folders, stuffing name tags with our student employees, opening day registration, oh…, I liked this.

Three or four years later, another job opened up - working for a college dean. It was another step up, new learning opportunities. Sure, why not. 

I stayed in that position for about nine years and two deans. Hands down some of the most rewarding years of my life. The first month in the job, I was responsible for pulling together a small donor luncheon - in the dean’s office. Only five or six people, but several hundred thousand dollars on the line. Anyone noticing how much pressure I put on myself - not expected, just self applied. All I had to do was produce the agenda, order lunch and make sure the dean’s office was in order. It wasn’t like I was the one who had to “make the ask”. What I did do was take responsibility for being part of something bigger, important to students, faculty and programs. That isn’t something you teach. It’s an awareness of what needs to happen to get the job done. Am I wrong in thinking that way?

It was also during this time, the chip on my shoulder was weighing me down. The one about a college degree. Oh yeah, that one. I worked my way through a four-year degree one class at a time. This was also the boom of online education everywhere. Thank goodness for that. I studied, wrote papers and listened to lectures in the early morning hours before the house wake up, or during lunch breaks, and when it was my husband's time to read a bedtime story, I would keep working. I would find a quiet place to read and write papers - sometimes close my eyes for a quick rest. 

Wait - there is another opportunity to move up the ranks. This time working for central administration. I did, for about three years and I finished that degree and graduated with honors. 
With my degree completed and now at the top of the administrative assistant ranks, there wasn’t much upward movement for me. Why had I bothered to finish my degree and always took the opportunities to move up and learn new and more things? Why do it? I still don’t have those answers. Why do we do it?

I took a salaried job as a conference coordinator in our Conference Services department. I enjoyed this work and even more I enjoyed the people I was working with, and the people I worked for. I learned the rhythm of our calendar of events, summers are hectic and winters are slower. Working with a group of people who meshed - taught me the ins and outs of the office, the work and all the contacts. I devoured all of it. Events small and large. Some of the state's largest events. But my own perfection got in the way. I started working long hours. Making myself available at all times of the day and week. I wanted the events to go off without a hitch. I didn’t trust others to do the same. Whops! You guessed it - I hit a wall. Burn out. Now I’m NOT happy. I was in need of self-correction. 

This is where my side drive meets back up with the main road. In high school I wanted to do something in business and live in a big city. I wonder how long that would have lasted before burning out. Instead, I’ve taken a drive nearly 30 years long. The scenic route. Reaching milestones along the way, but also dodging potholes, hitting potholes, driving over hills and along fields, speeding and drifting around corners. I’m on the road to recovery as they say. Learning to set boundaries and limits. Go home at the end of day instead of keep working. If something isn’t perfect, it’s not the end of the world. I’m also learning to apply that to all aspects of my life, not just work. Don’t let traffic and noise ruin the road. We get one ride, we need to enjoy it and our traveling companion(s).

​I could have written this article about professional accomplishments and individual successes in the event sense, but haven’t I really? My life in events has been built over a number of years and many lessons, but the biggest is about trust and learning what’s important. Where does your path lead you?